on the subject of marriage itself.

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DC will recognize samesex marriages from elsewhere in the US.


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Something to think about

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I find myself in partial agreement, as usual. Yes, idealizing marriage as the expected default is problematic. Yes, transfolk have worse problems than cisgender queers.

But no, gay marriage isn't just going to benefit gays who want to get married.

I think part of the problem is that you can already get mixed-race married, disability-married, kink-married, you name it (ok, you might get hassled if you try to marry the wrong type of non-citizen, I should add). There isn't an obvious deeply cherished symbolic cultural battleground for that other stuff.

It's a problem, and the benefits and are going to apply unevenly, and there's no promise that everything else will come next, but I think any serious challenge to the "one man, one woman" thing can only help with the other areas. Not enough, and I don't think trans folk should feel like they've won the lottery or anything, but right now, this is the most obvious thing we've got, and we're barely chipping away at it as it stands. And I think making gay marriage legal helps non-marrying gays, and so on. Saying that people can get married should make it easier for them to date and come out and such, I would think.

I don't know. I guess legalizing and regulating prostitution nationwide would be an obvious legal battlefield, to pick something else we could be working on, but good luck with that.