Only heterosexual can NOT be hypocritical about how their lives play into their sex lives.

If (male)homosexuals point out that danger forced the culture to be about glory holes and bath houses but lack of danger is what is leading to the possibility of stable home lives with the partner you really want - people just say they're trying to corrupt family values by unfaithful copying.

If Lesbians point out they've been sharing homes, mortgages, car payments and family for decades, without the legal support - they are lying or invisible.